"Love as distinct from 'being in love' is not merely a feeling. It is deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit... They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other... It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it."
C.S. Lewis
Now that you are married- how do you stay that way? There is so much to a marital relationship. So many things that make a relationship unique. Does your husband turn on all the lights when you are still sleeping in the morning? Do the way she eats her cereal, slowly slurping the milk from the spoon- make your skin crawl? Things like this can build up over time... or they can not. Depending on what your focus is. Enjoy the friendship you have with your spouse. Nurture it. Laugh often. Serve one another.
"The formula for a happy marriage? It's the same as the formula for living in California: when you find a fault, don't dwell on it." Jay Trachman
"I have witnessed much of the best and much of the worst in marriage... Faultfinding replaces praise. When we look for the worst in anyone, we will find it. But if we concentrate on the best, that element will grow until it sparkles."
Make your relationship one that sparkles. Do not get easily offended, forgive often and when hardships come, return to that initial foundation of love, respect and friendship that you created when you went to the temple.
"If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don't expose it to the elements. You don't make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by. Eternal marriage is just like that. We need to treat it just that way."
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